She Wants It: Desire, Power, and Toppling the Patriarchy
In this poignant memoir of personal transformation, Jill Soloway takes us on a patriarchy-toppling emotional and professional journey. When Jill's parent came out as transgender, Jill pushed through the male-dominated landscape of Hollywood to create the groundbreaking and award-winning Amazon TV series Transparent. Exploring identity, love, ...more
Jill Soloway is the creator, director, producer and writer of the excellent Amazon series "Transparent." I am not normally a watcher of fictional television, but the invitation to watch this kept appearing on the swipe screen of my Kindle Fire HDX. Being an Amazon Prime customer, I decided to check it out. The premise of this show is a very unique and provocative one for its time. It's about a father named Mort Pfeff ...more
I had never heard of Jill Soloway and had never watched Transparent, so was not drawn to this book for those reasons. The title implies that this book will be some manner of feminist or queer manifesto. As much as Soloway wanted it to be, it was neither of those things. Make no mistake, this is a celebrity memoir, chock full of "Reese Witherspoon/Opr ...more
I'll have to come back & do a proper review on this, but for now I'll just let the 1-star speak for itself. Don't waste your time. I mean, this title isn't even appropriate. So much better stuff exists regarding gender-identity.-------
So, I am going to try & do this review so I can mark it as done, but after taking some time to think I've not changed my mind about it. This book sucks. Bad writing & no story, ju...more
I also feel that the subtitle is deceptive. I didn’t get a ...more
I received a copy of this ebook from firsttoread.com in exchange for an honest review.
I wanted to like this book and I've been trying to figure out why I didn't love it and it comes down to for being a memoir this book still lacked some structure, the tone fluctuated a lot (which also goes back to structure), and it sort of seems like this book was written in the middle ...more
The first half of the book was really interesting- Jill discusses the changes in her life as her parent comes out as Trans and how that lead to the birth of the hit Amazon series. Reading about the implicati ...more
I found Soloway's voice engaging and funny, even when their attitude could run towards a little annoying; a problem familiar to readers of celebrity personal journey tales. Soloway seems self-awar ...more
As always, it's difficult to separate an opinion on a memoir of one's opinion on the memoir's author. One thing that surprised me is that at many points, Solloway *reacts* to things and events (their parent's coming out, which seems to put an entire chain of changes into motion) rather than being the instigator of actions.
There were aspects of this book that were fascinating to read. Solloway offers a particular insight ...more
I had only watched the first season of “Transparent” before, but I guess I knew enough then to recognise the author’s name, and be interested in the book’s premise. As a word of warning, though, if you’re in the same case… uh, the book contains spoilers as to the next seasons. I wasn’t too happy about that, especially since I had been able to avoid them so far. Or maybe it was just unavoidable fo ...more
Parts of the memoir were interesting. I w ...more
It is a morbidly interesting behind-the-scenes account of Jill Soloway's questionable motivations in creating and representing the Transparent series that answers the question of whether any family could really be just like the Pfeffermans.
The conversation between Soloway and Lysette at the end is particularly upsetting and is certainly no example of toppling the patriarchy nor of any ethical grappling with desire and power dynamics.
Here's a good revie ...more
I'm taking this book from 3 stars down to 2 stars. I saw this book, requested it, downloaded it, read it, and reviewed it in around 2 days. The problem with that is that I had a ton of mixed emotions when I was reading it which I didn't give myself time to parse through. I do think this memoir was successful on a couple of counts: that of Soloway's internal life and therapy sessions, and the exploration of their relationships. There was a lot of cringy content there, bu ...more
As a fan of Transparent, I was excited to score an uncorrected proof of Jill Soloway’s (they, them, theirs) new book She Wants It: Desire, Power, and Toppling the Patriarchy from NetGalley. Soloway is also an alum of University of Wisconsin-Madison and queer, so I have always been curious about them. I was quickly hooked after the first few pages of reading about their childhood, their family, a ...more
Jill’s father was depressed and a mostly absent workaholic father during her childhood. After Jill and her sister, Faith, went to college, their parents divorced.
During an early morning phone call, Jill is the first family member to which her father comes out to as trans. Jill’s first thought is this is part of her story and she was ...more
Jill Soloway is the show runner for Transparent, who came out as non-binary not too long ago and who, ironically, was seen as a leader in the #metoo movement even though later Transparent’s star Jeffrey Tambor was accused of sexually harassing two trans employees on the set of the show.
In this title, we get a little Hollywood gossip, some insider stuff about how tv works these days, and the deeply selfish and fascinating story of how a person ...more
Finding my way back into the real world has been difficult. I keep being reminded that I have missed lifetimes of content and there are stimuli all around, surrounding me, enfolding me, suffocating me. I end up catching glimpse ...more
Here's an excerpt:
It’s been four short seasons for Transparent; four big years for trans representation and visibility. Since Transparent made history in 2014 as the first TV show with a leading trans character (albeit played by a non-trans actor), its creator Jill Soloway has gone from being an unlikely spokesperson for the trans and queer communities to a member of those communities. In their new memoir She Wants It: De ...more
This memoir tells the story of Jill Soloway and her exploration into sexuality. It all starts with a phone call from her father telling her that he is trans. He has a new name that he likes to go by when he is in his comfort z ...more
This is a deeply honest book written by a deeply flawed individual, one who knows and acknowledges where they have messed up and failed people along the journey of their life. However, I can't help but feel after reading it that they've decided that recognizing an error is enough to make up for it.
There were certain passages that I highlighted because they illuminated experiences I could relate to, and I think that Soloway's writing is best when it's discu ...more
But the book is also insightful about creativity and the creator's pr ...more